There has been much written on the subject of “destiny”. Here is what William Shakespeare had to say about destiny: “It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” Whereas Ralph Waldo Emerson characterized destiny as: “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” The imponderability of destiny; at least for me, can be disambiguated by a syzygy of the term “will”: as in the will will will its destiny.
We are all subject to the “Called to Destiny”; whether or not to be, to do, or to act; and for this to happen we must rely on our will; which inspires, directs, and fulfills our destiny. How do couples will their destiny successfully and continue to remain within the boundaries of compatibility, given the myriad contours of life that too often redirects one’s will; ergo, one’s destiny? How can relationships survive the hazards, the temptations, the pangs that play against one’s will, one’s destiny? The answer is that we must resolve to fortify our will, especially as the will is frail; and has been since the biblical “fall of man”.
Where can we find the strength to stay the course, and beat the odds such that we frail couples can remain compatible over time? How can couples sustain their love for each other, and still thrive as individuals while simultaneously abiding to their solemn and irrevocable commitments to each other? For some it is a matter of religious beliefs or constraints, for others it is a question of one’s moral compass or ethics, and for others it is a cost/benefit scenario, or any combination or degree thereof. In all events, it is the will to fulfill one’s destiny that ensures the success of any relationship. What is to be derived from that fulfillment? It is a sustainable level of love and happiness that fuels the will towards that destiny (a destiny steeped in true-love); which again, circles back to love and happiness. The cycle of will and destiny, love and happiness, becomes self-reinforcing―provided that each person in the relationship answer their personal “Call to Destiny”. However, after you have answered the “Call to Destiny” as by your inner-voice; remember that that same inner-voice, from which the answer emanated, must be translated within the context of regular and open communication with the one you love, because the “Call to Destiny” is continuous and flowing.
Answering the “Call to Destiny” is like jumping into a river, a feat in and of itself for every couple. If one of you remains put the river of life will pass that person by, and the other person will inevitably be carried along by life’s currents; and in-time you will lose sight of one another and the relationship dissolves. If you both remain put than life will pass both of you by, which is a destiny unfulfilled. Therefore it is important to recognize that the “Call to Destiny” must be answered with commensurate commitment equal to the flow of life; meaning, through the seasons of twists and turns, rapids and placidness, days and nights in order to build common experiences that act to bind both of you to one destiny indivisible and insoluble.
“Mindfully cognizant that to keep well the chaste heart
That I did win, I shalt not soon forget that she devised it so.”
In the words of Don Quixote, Man of La Mancha: “My destiny calls and I go.”